544、對孩子的成功抱持信心，即使他們還沒弄清楚自己該如何做到
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👨🏼提問人：能在這裡真是太好了。
👥亞伯拉罕：是呀。
👨🏼提問人：在我開始提問之前，我要先說，雖然我的情況帶來許多差異對比，但也帶給我極大的清晰。
👥亞伯拉罕：是的。
👨🏼提問人：目前我的婚姻正在緊張狀態，因為我青春期的女兒在某些情況下，我覺得她做決定時沒對齊靈魂，所以我會介入。但她媽比較開放，傾向讓她去經驗某些事情。因此有時候，有些事情會瞞著我。
我的問題是….. 我應該「允許」嗎？身為爸爸，即使我看到女兒沒對齊靈魂做了一個決定，我還是「允許」嗎？
👥亞伯拉罕：你必須先決定，你的身教是要教「行為控制」？還是教「先對齊靈魂，然後採取被靈魂啟發的行為」？
因為如果你不允許他們找到自己對齊靈魂的感覺、如果你不允許他們感覺自由，他們就會偷偷摸摸。 （現場有笑聲）
然後變成一種「你瞞著我你不該瞞的事」的行為的事情。
但實際上發生的是，你把鼻子伸進了不屬於你的地方（比喻：愛管閒事）。
我們知道，這些話對善意的父母來說有些刺耳，但許多父母真的認為自己的孩子不夠聰明，會做出錯誤的決定，因此認為必須替他們做所有決定。
但這樣反而會產生很多問題：
1️⃣第一，如果父母一直替孩子做決定，你們的孩子永遠不擅長做決定。
2️⃣第二，父母其實正傳遞一個非常強烈的訊息 - - - 「他們的孩子不被信任」，而這只會產生更多的不信任。
所以，當你思考自己真正的目標時….. 如果我們是有形人類的父母、老師，又或者如果我們無形要幫助你們有形人類有比較快樂的人生經驗，我們只有一個目標，那就是我們在振動上 - - -
要如何…… 可以做什麼…… 可以說什麼…… 可以想什麼…… 可以成為什麼……
來支持你們相信對齊靈魂的重要性、並經常達到對齊自己靈魂？
因為你可以訂規則、設要求、列出一堆孩子「可做」或「不可做」的清單。
愚蠢的人類常做這種事，然後你們就成為必須去執行的人，但是你們甚至無法對訂立什麼規則達成共識。
換句話說，到最後事情變得一團亂，不是嗎？
當你試圖去控制孩子行為時，我們只想問你幾個簡單的問題：
🅰️在你一生當中，你是否曾經真正有效且持續控制任何一個人？（現場大笑）
🅱️當有人試圖控制你時，你喜歡嗎？
👱🏼♂️提問人：絕對不喜歡。
👥亞伯拉罕：因為那不是你們的天性。
我們稍早才跟提問的朋友提到，他們所追求的就是對齊靈魂、就是自由的感覺。他們所談的一切，其核心都是渴望自由，因為自由是所有一切的基礎。
你們人類生命的本質是自由。每個人都非常自由，自由到甚至可以自己選擇被什麼束縛。
你們人類生活的目的是快樂。每個人持續存在人世的結果，就是個人的擴展。
🔭這三個意圖—— 自由、快樂、擴展 ——等同一個生命立足的三隻腳。
「自由」理所當然，因為每個人都有自由思考的能力，沒有人能替任何人提供振動。 但問題是，你們真的要去影響你們在乎的人，使他們成為不對齊自己靈魂的人嗎❓
因為當你們訂立規則，實際上是對某人說：「我覺得你不夠聰明，沒辦法為你自己做這件事，所以我替你做這件事。」
但世界上沒有任何一條規則，能帶給你們這條規則所剝奪的好處❗️這簡直是在破壞一切！
當然，你不會想要突然之間……. 我們聽到你的一點辯解，因為你真的相信你必須保護孩子，或者必須教他們。
💪但我們要求你透過你清晰的身教來教孩子，因此我們對所有父母的建議是 - - -
先對齊自己靈魂，然後再說出任何自己受到靈感啟發的話。
也就是，找到對齊靈魂的感覺，提升振動，然後接收靈感。
💯因為當你這麼做時，你接收到的靈感，會同時涵蓋孩子所有想要的，以及他們此刻與之的關係。
那麼，你的智慧就會成為真正對他們有幫助的智慧。
懂了嗎？
那些話聽起來會像是：
「我不試著告訴你你該怎麼做，我只強調我希望你幸福安好。
我不試著控制你，我只是要把你留在一個最佳可能位置，讓你的靈魂引領你走向高效率的道路。
而事實上，我本來正試著做一件不可能的事，我試圖保護你，使你不會犯下我曾經犯過的錯，我以為那是可能做到的。」
我們向你們保證，如果你們培養孩子或任何人到一個相信自己必定幸福安好的振動位置，當他們開始信任，你們會看到，他們本能地知道自己該怎麼做！
相反地，一個被嚴格限制的人，通常還是會去做那些別人限制他們做的事情。
傑瑞（Jerry Hicks）和埃希特（Esther Hicks）認識彼此之前，他已經在娛樂圈工作非常多年。他曾經告訴她一個故事。
他在夜總會當主持人時，遇到很多脫衣舞孃。他說：「她們幾乎都是牧師的女兒。」（全場大笑）
幾乎毫無例外，最被限制壓抑的人，往往會用他們發現的最離譜的方式來展現自由。
然而有趣的是，她們並沒有遵循自己內在靈魂的引導。她們做的，是她們腦海中最活躍的振動。
而她們腦海中最活躍的振動，往往是她們之前在自己生活經驗中最被強烈反對的那個振動。你們懂我們在說什麼了吧？
✨所以，不要跟你老婆吵，也不要和孩子交戰。
💫與你自己靈魂合作，等到你心平氣和，跟隨你的靈感。懂嗎？
🌟不要把焦點放在她們身上，把焦點放在你自己身上！（現場掌聲響起）
😤當你擔憂女兒時，你不可能感覺良好。
😵💫「擔憂的想法」會阻隔你和靈魂給你的靈感。
🫥這時靈感要給你的引導就派不上什麼用場了。懂嗎？
你必須「想」孩子是有潛力的、一定會成功，你也必須「想」孩子一定幸福安好！你必須找到信任的方法！你必須有信心她有能力引導自己，即使她有時候的表現並非如此！
「信心」的定義是什麼？我們在研討會談論的一切，都是在告訴你們「實現之前，維持住那個振動頻率」！
如果有一場談話，我們想要運用這定義，那麼就是這一場。
我們要你們在孩子還沒弄清楚該如何做到之前，對他們的成功抱持信心。
因為如果你們沒信心他們有能力引導自己，他們就永遠無法弄清楚該如何做到。 （全場掌聲響起）
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💗溫故知新：
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67-544 Have Faith in Your Children’s Ability to Guide Themselves
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👨🏼Questioner: Wonderful to be here.
👥Abraham: Yeah.
👨🏼Questioner: Before I begin to say what I need to say, would like to say that my situation has bought me great clarity even though it has bought a lot of contrast to.
👥Abraham: Yes.
👨🏼Questioner: Currently you know my marriage is a strain. And that’s because my daughter’s a teenager and there’s been certain situations where I think she’s not align when she’s making decisions and that’s where I step in and the mom is more open to let her experience certain things. There has been times where things have been hidden from me.
So, my question would be... should I just allow? Even if I see that my daughter is in a position where she’s not making a decision that is purely aligned and as a father?
👥Abraham: Well, here’s the thing. You have to decide are you trying to teach “Behavioral Control” or are you wanting to teach through the clarity of your example alignment and therefore inspired behavior”?
Because what happens if you don’t allow someone to find their own alignment, if you don’t allow them to feel their own freedom, they just get sneaky. （現場有笑聲）
And then, it becomes this behavioral thing where “you’re keeping things from us that you shouldn’t keep from us”.
Where what’s really going on is that you are sticking your nose in where it doesn’t belong.
And we know, these are harsh sounding words to well-meaning parents, but so many parents really believe that their children aren’t wise that they will make bad decisions and so they need to make all decisions for them.
And there are a number of problems with that:
1️⃣First, your children never get good at making decision if someone else is making them for them.
2️⃣Next, you are setting a very powerful message forward that says you are not to be trusted which perpetuates more mistrust.
So, when you think about what your true objective is which if we were standing in your physical shoes as parents or in your shoes as teachers or mentors or if we are standing in our own non-physical non-shoes wanting to assist you in happier life experience, we would have one objective and one objective only as it relates to other people, and that it - - -
How can I...
What could I do....
What could I say...
What could I think...
What could I be ...
vibrationally that will support their belief in their own alignment, their accomplishment of their own alignment?
Because you can make rules and requirements, you can make lists of do’s and don’ts.
Human dumb is doing that all over the place, and then you become those that have to enforce. You can’t even agree on what the rules are.
In other words, things get to be quite in a mess, don’t they?
As you are trying to control behavior, and so we just have some simple questions for you:
🅰️Have you been able to effectively achieve any consistent control over anyone in your entire life? （現場大笑）
🅱️And, here’s another question. Do you enjoy it when anyone attempts to control you?
👱🏼♂️Questioner: Absolutely not.
👥Abraham: So, it isn’t your nature. We had a whole segment here with our furry friend and our less furry friend a little bit ago where what is being reached for is that alignment, what is being reached for is that feeling of freedom. Everything that he talked about was wanting freedom, it is the basis of that which all is.
The basis of your life is freedom. You are so free, you could choose bondage.
Your objective is joy. And the upshot of continuing to be is expansion.
🔭So that triad of intentions is equal the three legs that it stands on.
But freedom is a given, no one can offer a vibration for you.
But do you want to influence the vibration of someone that you care about in a way that causes them to be less aligned with who they are❓
So, when you make any rules, what you actually are saying to someone is, “I see that you are not smart enough to do this for yourself, so I do this for you.”
Well, there’s not a rule in the world that could give you the benefit that that rule is taking away❗️Talk about undermining everything, you see.
So, of course you don’t want all of a sudden…, we can hear arguments from you a bit around them, because you really do believe that you have to protect your children or that you have to teach them.
💪But we just asking you to teach through the clarity of your example, so our words to any parent would be - - -
Find alignment with who you are and then say whatever you’re inspired to,
Find alignment and then translate, then receive your inspiration.
💯Because when you do that, you’re receiving inspiration that includes everything that your child wants where they are in relationship to it.
Then your wisdom will be wisdom that will be helpful to them.
You see?
And it will sound more like,
“I’m not trying to tell you what to do, I just emphasizing my desire for well-being for you.
I’m not trying to control you, I’m just wanting to leave you the best possible place that you can guide yourself in a productive way.
And really, I’m trying to do the impossible. I’m trying to protect you from some of the mistakes I made as if that were even possible.”
And it’s our promise to you, that if you foster a child or anyone into a position where they begin to believe in their own well-being, when they begin to trust, then as you watch them, they will intuitively know what to do!
Someone who is restricted in a very powerful way, usually demonstrates the very thing that you have restricted them from.
Jerry, Esther’s Jerry, used to tell her the story because he was in an entertainment business for many many years before she met him.
And he met lots of strippers in the nightclubs and he was a master of ceremony. And he said as our friend said a minute ago something similar, “Almost all of them were preachers daughters.” （全場大笑）
Almost without exception, the most repressed were those that were displaying their freedom in the most outrageous ways that they could discover.
And what’s interesting about it is that they were not following their own guidance, they were just demonstrating the vibration that was most active in them.
And the vibration that was most active in them was the vibration that had been pushed against the most in their life experience. You see what we’re getting at?
✨So, don’t make war with your child’s mother and don’t make war with your child.
💫Make peace with your own Inner Being, and then follow the inspiration that comes once you’ve made that peace, you see.
🌟Don’t make it about them, make it about you! （現場掌聲響起）
😤So, if you can hold worrisome thought about your daughter and feel good, of course you can’t.
😵💫So those worrisome thoughts that you hold separate you from your guidance.
🫥So then your guidance isn’t worth much, you see.
You have to think thoughts of success and thoughts of well-being! You have to find ways of trusting! You have to have faith in her ability to guide herself, even when she’s demonstrating otherwise!
What is the definition of faith anyway? Everything that we’re talking about here, we’re talking about “holding a vibrational frequency even before the evidence is there”!
Well, if there has ever been a conversation where we would like to apply that, this is it.
Well, we want you to have faith in the success of your children even before they’re figured out how to demonstrate it.
Because they will never figure out how to demonstrate it if you don’t have faith in their ability to guide themselves. （全場掌聲響起）
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