481、如何與伴侶從差異對比中獲益1/2— 不同之處、多元非常有價值
YouTube: https://youtu.be/01EI7LXJxCA?si=trxfI3iVPVuazxFj
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👳♂️提問人：我非常愛我的女朋友，當我們彼此有「差異對比」時應該如何處理？
當我們爭吵時，我知道不要繼續爭吵、不要產生振動頻率；靜坐；看優點；想想我們對彼此的愛；看看我們共同實現的美好事情/東西。
但我們有時候還是會經歷「差異對比」，該怎麼處理？因為我不喜歡專注在「差異對比」上。
👥亞伯拉罕：在你繼續說下去之前，我們想問你：你說的是你們之間在觀點，甚至夢想渴望上的不同之處？人類生來就會經歷並受益的美麗差異？你是說在那些有益的不同之處或差異活躍的時刻嗎？那麼你們怎麼做?
👳♂️提問人：我們爭吵。哈哈哈…
👥亞伯拉罕：專注在「對你們有益的不同之處」就好。換句話說，我們要你們欣然接受並且清楚知道你們的「不同之處非常有價值」。
👳♂️提問人：它們確實如此，我看得出來。
👥亞伯拉罕：你們的相同之處會導致絕對的無聊，這就是為什麼人們經常從關係中離開。因為如果你們每一件事、每一個想法都如此相像、相同、一致，那麼這種關係就不再有擴展的潛力。
但如果你們仍然有很多不同之處，你們幫助彼此釐清明瞭自己喜好，那麼你們就會有一個充滿活力的活躍關係，這關係就會永恆。
👳♂️提問人：我理解，我知道她一直以來給我巨大的幫助。
👥亞伯拉罕：人類經常發生的情況是：大多數人不以「非防禦的態度」欣然接受不同之處，反而採取防禦的方式。
因為大多數人類非常奇怪，當某人，尤其他們親近的人、很愛的人，與他們持有不同觀點、意見時，他們通常的膝躍反射、直接反應就是「防禦」。
但在防禦之中，他們立即失去自己原有的清晰、失去與自己靈魂連結、不再處於接收模式。
因此，你的目標當然是維持在接收模式，即使知道彼此有不同之處。
但這有點困難，也只是困難而已，因為人類已經發展了幾種防禦模式，就好像：若有人不同意我的觀點，那我就要儘可能讓他們同意我的觀點。而不是去理解「不同觀點的價值」。
當你們作為一個群體聚集在一起時，沒有兩個人是相同的。人類的生活方式極為多元，這使得你們在一起時，真的非常非常適合彼此，因為若沒有變化或不同，你們就無法產生新想法。
因此，與其防禦任何事情，你們還不如欣然接受「變化和不同有優勢在其中」。這就是我們稱呼的第五步驟。
第五步驟是你們意識、覺察到自己正在面對「差異對比」，而且面對「差異對比」時，自己不會離開幸福圈。
這就是我們要問你的：你認為你能做到嗎？當你覺察到自己不想要的事情/東西，你仍然可以與靈魂的振動保持一致嗎？
你當然可以！ 而你做到這一點的方法就是欣然接受、欣賞「差異對比」的價值。 「差異對比」才有價值！
因此，你可以這麼告訴你的女朋友：「非常謝謝妳！我之前不是這樣看這件事，我會再想想。即使我可能沒完全同意妳的觀點看法，但是我喜歡我們以更廣闊的視野看這件事。」
👳♂️提問人：我確實看到「差異對比」的價值。早些時候我曾經...... 就像她會說一些傷害我的話。
👥亞伯拉罕：比如什麼？
👳♂️提問人：我過去常常以牙還牙。但後來… 哈哈哈。
👥亞伯拉罕：嗯，大多數人都這樣，那是防禦！但是當你們與任何人對抗時，你們沒影響力，因為你們已經與自己靈魂分離！
當你以牙還牙，會發生的事情是：你放棄自己真正的力量！因為你發動了一場表面看起來你贏了的戰鬥，但實際上你並沒有真贏！
大多數會以牙還牙、變得越來越好戰或強勢的人，是因為他們沒意識到或意識到已經與自己內在的能量區、力量區、槓桿區分離，所以他們試圖透過行動和言語彌補，但行動和言語從來就不是非常強大，這就是那些人變得如此荒謬可笑的原因。
因為失去與自己靈魂連結，所以他們的言語、威脅和欺凌變得荒謬可笑。
當你們與靈魂連結時，你們不會想要欺負任何人！你們也不會威脅別人！ 你們只想要有力量地存在，盡己所能提升別人！明白嗎！
因此，當你跟女友爭吵時，若你仍能維持與自己靈魂連結的完整力量時，那麼就吵不起來，因為你沒失去自己真正的力量！
現在你明白為什麼爭吵時你會防禦了吧？那是因為你失去內在的力量，所以你在和那個你認為奪走你力量的人爭吵！
👳♂️提問人：這很棘手，因為當我和女友想談一些不舒服或可能引發我們關係緊張的事情時，我不想專注在負向那方面，我想保持與靈魂連結。但是…
👥亞伯拉罕：我們也要你如此！更重要的是，我們要你們之間沒任何不舒服的地方。也就是說，你們與自己靈魂之間仍然保持和諧。靈魂不在乎你們在什麼地點、什麼時間聽見祂們。
事實上，你們所做的任何事情都不會導致靈魂與你們分離，因為靈魂一直與你們寸步不離，但你們做的很多事情會導致「你們的振動」不在「靈魂的振動」附近。
無論如何，靈魂會持續無條件地愛你們、瞭解你們、接受你們，「分離」就是「你們的想法與靈魂想法不同」！明白嗎?
👳♂️提問人：我們沒常常爭吵，爭吵只發生在有「差異對比」時。譬如，她回到家，她失衡，她沮喪，我為了保持對齊靈魂，所以我試著先跟她分開一下。
👥亞伯拉罕：在你的舉例中，你認為她回到家時「不是」對齊靈魂的狀態，那時你在家，你「是」對齊靈魂的狀態。在這情況中，因為你對齊靈魂，你就像靈魂一般，你唯一的意圖會是幫她回復到「對齊靈魂」。
再舉例：她非常失衡，甚至對你講話冷嘲熱諷。但若你當下真的與自己內在和諧、對齊靈魂，你不會把那些話放在心上，因為你無論如何都想要繼續愛她。因此你只需明白她需要一些話來幫助她冷靜下來，這些話可能來自於你、她的朋友或親人，而且你會發現她的「差異對比」很討人喜歡，甚至很有價值。
再舉第三例：你不是真的很牢固的對齊靈魂，當她失衡回到家，你會把她看作是你對齊靈魂的一個威脅，這就是讓你產生防禦的原因。因此，如果你很堅定地對齊靈魂，你不會感覺受到威脅，你不會覺得需要防禦。你懂我們的意思嗎？
👳♂️提問人：嗯，我懂。
👥亞伯拉罕：在通常情況下，因為吸引力法則作用，你們不會和振動跟你們差距太遠的人聚在一起，除非你們和他們住在一起。（提問者和全場大笑）。
也就是說，如果你們和他們同住一個屋簷下，不管振動是否有差距，他們都會回家，因為他們的床在那裡！吸引力法則在這情況下沒作用！(提問者和全場爆笑)
所以，你們只需要為他們回家「做好準備」，這意味著你們必須「對齊靈魂」。因為當你們對齊靈魂時，你們「所看到的一切都有價值」！
但你們不需要為他們是否對齊靈魂而負起責任，若你們是常對齊靈魂的人，你們過度保護他們或他們把你們當成自己的靈魂時，那麼就會有很多易怒、衝突的時候，因為沒有任何人能夠做到「像靈魂支持你們一樣」堅定地支持別人！
然而當你們沒對齊靈魂時，你們需要一切都按照自己需要的方式進行，以便使你們「在有瑕疵的前提下錯誤地認為」那樣將會促使自己對齊靈魂。
你們希望對方成為你們需要的樣子，使自己感覺良好。 如果他們不這樣做，那麼他們就做錯了事。 事實並非如此，「差異對比」才是你們的力量！
👳♂️提問人：是的，我理解「差異對比」的美和價值。事實上，當她對齊靈魂而我失衡時，對我來說比較容易。
👥亞伯拉罕：當然如此！ （提問者和全場大笑）當然！ 每個人都喜歡容易愛的人！ 你們認為容易愛的人對自己有最大的好處，但事實並非如此！ 我們沒要求你們、我們也不想要你們沒對齊靈魂時仍對彼此友善，我們不想要你們假裝，我們想要你們...... 讓我們來舉個例子：
某年埃希特（Esther Hicks）和傑瑞（Jerry Hicks）在他們搭的飛機的雜誌上看到一則廣告，那是一則飯店廣告，廣告上寫著：「我們錄用員工時不會告訴他們要友善，我們錄用友善的人。」
因為沒對齊靈魂的人無法友善！所以埃希特認為廣告所說的是：「我們錄用對齊靈魂的人。」、「我們錄用的是能校正自己、穩定在對齊靈魂的狀態的人，想要感覺良好是他們的天性。」
生活不斷向你們襲來，因為有太多變數，所以我們要你們承認、欣然接受並知道一切都會很好。 只要把自己的避震器隨時準備好，對齊靈魂，不處理、不應付、不容忍，當生活來時，享受生活。
因為每次每一件事情的到來，都是宇宙對你們所提出的「擴展的請求」的答覆，即使只是一點點事情也是！
所以，當一些讓你們感覺有一點點不舒服的事情發生時，它提出了一個問題，你們把這個問題放進幸福圈中，幸福圈會吸引答案。如果你們是組成元件之一，那麼當你們開始移動自己到問題的答案或問題的解決方法時，你們就會經驗到自己來人世本該有的成長擴展。明白嗎？
我們無形非常愛你們，但有件事我們無形覺得你們很有趣。非常多人類真的以為他們只要生活在一個完美的方式就好，然後他們只要看著就會感覺良好。但是我們跟你們保證，不是這樣！這就是為什麼你們會撥弄出這麼多麻煩！（提問者點頭微笑）
你們找問題，是因為找到解決方法會令你們非常滿足，而且也因為問題和解決方法就是「擴展的方程式」。問題➡️答案，問題➡️答案，問題➡️答案，問題➡️答案，問題➡️答案，問題➡️答案，問題➡️答案，這是所有人類一生中一直重複的，這就是「擴展的公式」！
「有形的你們」和「無形的我們」是一體的，我們都永恆存在，如果我們不持續擴展，就是已經完成擴展，但我們永遠不會完成擴展！
因為你們不能停止擴展，所以不妨擁抱自己的擴展，理解擴展是怎麼來的。當你們理解擴展是如何發生的，你就不會因為某件事不完美而驚慌失措、譴責它、或對它粗魯無禮。
當你們擁抱它，欣賞它，謝謝它，對它的存在感到滿意，然後你們就能和許多有著不同夢想渴望、觀點和信念的人從此幸福快樂地生活在一起。
因為沒有人能威脅你們，除了你們自己分裂的能量、沒對齊靈魂。而且它不是真正的威脅，它其實只是一種刺激。
（未完待續）
👳♂️ 此影片來自亞伯拉罕-希克斯官方YouTube，2018年4月在北卡羅萊納州（North Carolina）的阿什維爾市（Asheville）舉辦的研討會片段。
👳♂️溫故知新：
437、職業15 — 不是努力工作，而是努力與靈魂結合
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352、22個瑕疵前提與真實前提
https://www.facebook.com/1021491284564489/posts/3035791726467758/
367、吸引力法則實例5 — 埃希特(Esther)的凱迪拉克(Cadillac)與18歲女孩 的野馬(Mustang)
https://www.facebook.com/1021491284564489/posts/3437329769647283/
430、職業8 — 改變想法後，工作一天可以跟躺在沙灘一天的感覺一樣好
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262、 把金錢從生活方程式移開
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8-481. How to Receive Benefit from Contrast with your Partner 1/2
YouTube: https://youtu.be/01EI7LXJxCA?si=trxfI3iVPVuazxFj
👳♂️Questioner: I’m in a relationship with someone I love very much. How to handle when we’re going through personal contrast?
Like when we’re having an argument, I know about getting out ahead of manifestation, meditating and seeing all the goodness, and love that we have for each other and manifesting the beautiful things.
But there’s times when we’re going through contrast. How to handle it? Because I don’t like to focus on the contrast.
👥Abraham: Before you go further, we want to ask. You’re talking about those times when the difference in you？ The differences in your perspectives or opinions or even desires that beautiful difference that you were born to experience benefit from？ Are you saying that in those moments when that beneficial difference is active? What do you do?
👳♂️Questioner: We argue, ha ha ha...
👥Abraham: But focus upon the beneficial difference. In other words, we want you to embrace the clear understanding that your differences are of such value.
👳♂️Questioner: They are. I can see that.
👥Abraham: Your sameness could lead to absolute boredom that really is why people move on from relationships so often. But if you have a relationship where differences still abound, where you help produce in each other new clarity about what you prefer, so that you have a dynamic active relationship, then it can be eternal.
But if you can ever get so compatible and so same and so aligned in every idea about everything, then this relationship has no more potential to produce expansion.
👳♂️Questioner: I understand that. I see the beauty she has helped me tremendously.
👥Abraham: What happened so often is instead of embracing that difference in a non-defensive way, most are defensive.
Because most people and it’s so screwy, but most people when they encounter someone, especially someone up close to them, they love very much when they encounter a different opinion in someone like that, their usual knee-jerk response is to become defensive.
And in their defensiveness, they immediate lose their connection with their own clarity, their own source, they’re no longer in receiving mode.
So, of course your goal is to remain in the receiving mode while you are acknowledging your differences.
And it’s a little tricky, but it’s only tricky, because as humans you have developed patterns of defense. Like, “If someone doesn’t agree with me, then I need to get them on board with me.” Instead of understanding the value of the varying perspectives.
When you come together collectively as a group, there are not two of you that are the same. You are so varied in your approach to life which makes you collectively really really good for one another. Because without variants or difference, you could not produce new ideas.
So rather than feeling defensive about anything, instead what you’re wanting to do is acknowledge that there is advantage in it. That’s why we’ve been calling Step 5.
Step 5 is realizing that you are having some contrast and you are aware of some contrast. But at the same time that you are having some contrast, you are not out of the Vortex in the contrast.
That’s what we’re asking you: Do you think you can do… Can you be aware of something not wanted and still be in vibrational sync with your inner being?
Yes! And the way you do it, is by acknowledging the value of the contrast, by appreciating the value in contrast. There is value in contrast!
So that you say, “Thank you very much! I hadn’t looked at it in that way, I’ll think about that. I may not ever agree with you completely, but I like that we have a broader view.”
👳♂️Questioner: I do see the value in contrast, and early on I used to... Like she would say something that would hurt my feelings.
👥Abraham: Like what?
👳♂️Questioner: I used to fight fire with fire. But then.... ha ha ha.
👥Abraham: Well, most do, that’s defensiveness! But you can’t push against anyone without being off in the wilderness apart from your own inner being.
So when you fight fire with fire, what happens is, you leave your true power and you wage a battle that you’re not winning even when you’re winning.
And the reason that most who are fighting fire with fire who are fighting at all, the reason that most get more and more belligerent about it or more and more strong about it, is because you have an unconscious or maybe conscious awareness that you’ve stepped out of your energy zone, out of your power zone, out of your true leverage zone, and now you’re trying to make up for it through the action and the words which are never very strong, but it’s what makes people be so ridiculous.
It's what makes people be ridiculous with their words and their threats and their bullying, because they’re out of connection!
When you are in connection with the true Source, you don’t feel like bullying anyone! You don’t make threats! You just stand in your power and do everything you can to uplift, you see!
So, in the midst of a sort of battle with your lover, as you stay in your full power, then there’s no battle, because there’s no threat of you losing your true power.
You see that’s why when you battle with each other and you get defensive? It’s because you lost your power and now you’re fighting with the person that you feel took your power away.
👳♂️Questioner: It’s tricky because when we wanna talk about something that’s uncomfortable or something that caused tension between us, I don’t want to focus on the negativities, I want to stay in alignment. But…
👥Abraham: We want that too, but more than that, we want there to be nothing to be uncomfortable between you. In other words, there’s nothing uncomfortable between your inner being and you. Your inner being doesn’t care if you listen to them in your underwear.
In other words, there’s nothing that you do that causes your inner being to separate from you. There’s plenty that you do that causes you to not be in the vibrational vicinity of your inner being. You can’t get away from your inner being. Your inner being will continue to acknowledge you, to know you, and love you no matter what. It's only your idea caused the separation, you see!
👳♂️Questioner: This is not all the time. This is just the times when you do have contrast. For example, say she comes home and she’s out of alignment and she’s upset, and I try to stay in alignment so I try to separate myself.
👥Abraham: Here’s the first question we want to ask you. So she comes home out of alignment and we’re assuming that from your perspective that you were in alignment before she came home out of alignment. So, let’s say that’s the case... (The audience laughs)
👳♂️Questioner: Ha ha ha…
👥Abraham: Let’s say that’s the case that you are in alignment when she comes home out of alignment. And, so when that happen, you like your inner being, your only intention with her is to help her get back into alignment.
But let’s say, she’s so out of alignment that she’s even snarky about you, but if you were really in alignment, you wouldn’t take any of that personally, you would just understand that she could use a little talking off the ledge and you would like continue to love her anyway. You could find her contrast endearing or even of value.
But if you are not really solidly in alignment and she comes home out of alignment, and therefore you see her as a risk to your alignment, that’s what makes you defensive. So, if you are solidly in alignment, then you don’t feel that risk, then you don’t feel defensive. You see what we are getting at?
👳♂️Questioner: mm-hmm. I see.
👥Abraham: So, usually, you don’t really rendezvous with anyone who’s too far from where you are unless you live with them. We understand that. (The questioner and the audience laugh).
In other words, if you live with them, they’re going to come home no matter... Law of Attraction be damned. (The questioner and the audience laugh loudly) They are coming home, they are coming home, because that’s where their bed is. They are coming home.
And so, you just have to be ready for them to come home which means you have to be in alignment with yourself and when you’re in alignment with yourself, then there’s value in everything you see.
When you’re not in alignment with yourself, then you need everything to be the way you need it to be, in order to “what you erroneously in a flawed premise way” think will support your alignment. You do not owe it to each other to be in alignment, and when you feather somebody else’s nest, when you are so in alignment that they just use you as their inner being, then there are going to be testy times, because nobody can stand in that solid place of being the support like the inner being is for anybody else.
And yet, you do that to each other all the time, you want each other to be the way you need them to be in order to feel good. When they are not, then they are doing something wrong. And that isn’t how it is, contrast is your strength!
👳♂️Questioner: It is. I see the beauty in contrast. It’s actually easier for me when she’s in alignment and I’m out of alignment.
👥Abraham: Of course it is! (The questioner and the audience laugh loudly) Of course it is! Everyone likes those who are easy to love! The easy to love ones you think are your greatest benefit, but they are not! We’re not asking you, we don’t want you to be nice to each other from an out of alignment. We don’t want you to fake it, we want you....
Esther saw an advertisement in the magazine years ago, Esther and Jerry were in an airplane. And it was a hotel ad and the ad said, “We don’t hire people and tell them to be nice, we hire nice people.”
Because you can’t make anybody be nice if they are out of alignment, and so Esther assumed that what the ad was saying is, “We hire people who were in alignment.”, “We hire people who know about the state, it’s become their nature to want to feel good.”
Well, life keeps coming at you. This is the thing that we want you to acknowledge embrace and be alright with. Life is going to keep coming at you because there are so many variables.
And you just want your shock absorbers to be ready to enjoy. Not deal with, not cope with, not tolerate! We want you to enjoy life as it comes.
Because every time another piece of it comes, it comes as answer to a request for expansion that you have set out there, every bit of it!
So when something comes that feels a little uncomfortable, what-it-is is posing the question which you’re putting in the Vortex which will attract the answer, which you if you’re one of the components, then when you get to move to the answer of your own question, or toward the solution to your own problem, you get to experience the growth expansion that you’re all about, you see?
It's so interesting to us, we love you so much, but so many humans really think that they just want life to just be this perfect way, so they can just observe it and feel good. We promise you, that will never be and that’s why you stir so much trouble up. (The questioner nods and smiles)
You look for problems because it’s so satisfying to find solutions, and because problems and solutions that is the equation for expansion. Question➡️answer. Question➡️answer. Question➡️answer. Question➡️answer. Question➡️answer. Question➡️answer. Question➡️answer. That’s the formula for expansion which is the mantra of that which we all are!
We are eternal beings, if we are not expanding, we are really done, and we will never be done!
So you can’t stop expanding, so you might as well embrace your expansion which means understand how expansion comes. So when you understand how expansion comes then just because something’s not perfect, you don’t freak out and condemn it and be rude about it.
When something you embrace it, appreciate it, you feel thankful for it, you feel satisfied that it exists and then you live happily ever after with so many others who have differences in desires and opinions and beliefs.
Because no one is a threat to you other than your own split energy. And it’s not really a threat, it’s just an irritation.
(To be continued)
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